On the Assault on the US Capitol

Yesterday was a hard and significant day. As someone who spent much of my past career in public service, including working in the US Senate for eight years, I feel it’s important to say something. First, to acknowledge the violation that occurred: white supremacy on parade in halls that should be safe for all people of our nation. An assault on democracy. It is the harvest of the hate, disinformation and destruction sown by a presidency that from its outset embraced the callous and casual violation of women’s bodies. So, the result that our nation’s most sacred institutions have been similarly violated is sickening but not surprising. Much that is sacred has been desecrated. We need both accountability and repair as we move into a new time of hope and healing. May the “better angels of our nature” that Lincoln referred to in his First Inaugural Address come forth so that we are able to dig deep and be present for the work that must be done. These are significant and ungrounding events. They will take time to process. Our strongest emotional responses, including sorrow and anger, can be embraced as guides to the deeper issues that need attention and…

Integration

Sometimes when we share ourselves with someone, parts of us become hurt through painful relationship experiences or losses. Or in the course of life, we experience difficult or even tragic events that seem to shatter us. We are then faced with a choice (which is not always conscious). Do we cut off those hurt parts of our self, never to face them again? Or do we begin the slow, sometimes difficult, but ultimately rewarding process of reclaiming those parts, nurturing them, and inviting in healing? The latter can help us move towards wholeness. In addition to our inner world of thoughts and feelings, our physical surroundings and activities can give us clues about parts of self that need to heal. Are there places, spaces, activities, or belongings that have negative connotations? Are they triggers for anxiety, dread, sadness, or shame? When the time is right, with care and gentleness, these hurt places can be approached, allowing you to reclaim valuable parts of yourself and to let go of that which no longer has a place with you. In a similar way, do certain experiences, people, places make a forgotten part of you come alive? Follow that impulse. The work of…